Remember when you were a kid and asked all kinds of questions? How do plants grow? What makes the grass green? Why does it get cold?
Back then you were a question-asking machine, full of curiosity and wonder! The world around you was an amazing place, and you wanted to know everything about it.
We all have this natural quest for knowledge and understanding that is limitless. However, somewhere along the way we learned that the right answer is better than the right question. That’s not always true.
In addition, having the right answers has become mundane because of our immediate access to the internet. Yes, you can find out information about others through social media, however, the only way to really get to know someone is by sitting down and talking with them.
Not just talking, but actually having a two-way conversation where you find out things you never knew before.
Therefore, questions are a powerful way to get to know others. Asking powerful questions allow you to explore ideas and articulate a deeper level of self-awareness. These kinds of questions build trust, understanding, and a sense of connection that can happen in no other way.
Here are a few examples of great questions:
What have you accomplished that you are really proud of and why?
What was it like for you growing up? Your parents? Your siblings? Your house?
What have you always wanted to do, but haven’t done it yet?
What is one of your favorite memories from childhood?
If you could change the world, what would you do?
What makes you happy? Confident? Motivated?
What do you enjoy learning about the most?
What is something you would never do?
What kind of music or books have influenced you the most?
Where do you see yourself the next five years?
What life challenges have you experienced recently? How did you grow from them?
What are you passionate about?
What makes you fearful? Angry? Sad?
What is one of your most memorable trips?
What do you want others to remember about you?
A few tips to remember are:
Give the other person plenty of time to think and then answer your question.
Respond to sensitive subjects with compassion.
Match your question to the current situation.
Listen actively with your whole being.
The truth is that the more you get to know others, the more attractive they become. So, if you really want to get to know someone, a few great questions can open many doors.
Get to know someone better today!