Some of us enjoy being with people and others have a hard time connecting. Our nature is to want to feel connected to other human beings. It creates a sense of belonging.
Remember when you were a kid and had all kinds of questions? How do plants grow? What makes the grass green? Why does it get cold?Back then you were full of curiosity and wonder! The world around you was an amazing place, and you wanted to know everything about it.
Since we all have this natural quest for knowledge and understanding, become intrigued with other people. They all know something you don’t know, so find out what they know and are willing to share with you. There are the simple social questions that get a conversation started, but if you really want to dive in and develop a relationship, let them know you are interested in finding out more about them. Sit down and talk. Discover some intriguing, new things about each other.
Powerful questions are a great way to get to know others. You can explore ideas and articulate a deeper level of awareness. As you actively listen to the other person, these kinds of questions can build trust, understanding, and a sense of connection.
Remember that it’s okay to have silent moments. The more reflective you are, the more you have time to process and relax.
What have you accomplished that you are really proud of and why?
What was it like for you growing up? Your parents? Your siblings? Your house?
What have you always wanted to do, but haven’t done it yet?
What is one of your favorite memories from childhood?
If you could change the world, what would you do?
What makes you happy? Confident? Motivated?
What do you enjoy learning about the most?
What is something you would never do?
What kind of music or books have influenced you the most?
Where do you see yourself the next five years?
What life challenges have you experienced recently? How did you grow from them?
What are you passionate about?
What makes you fearful? Angry? Sad?
What is one of your most memorable trips?
What do you want others to remember about you?
The more you get to know others, the more fascinating they become. Plus, when you are truly interested, the more endearing you become.
If you really want to connect with great people, ask great questions. Discover a new friend today! Let me know how it goes.